I’m a fan of New Girl. Partly because it’s hilarious, and partly because I relate to Jessica Day on a weirdly high level. In the past I’ve tried to hide that we’ll call it “quirky” part of me until you get to know me, but recently I’ve been letting myself be me – always. Honestly, I’ve been happier, and most people seem to enjoy me being around (Although there are some people who cock their heads to the side and give me a weird look).
That being said, I’ve also been realizing that it’s hard to make new friends as an adult. It’s a weird thing I didn’t really ever think about when I was younger because growing up we’re constantly pushed into situations in which everyone needs to meet new people, with this experience peaking freshman year of college. But now, not so much. People have their friends and making new ones is pretty tough.
Last night, I decided I would go to the trivia night my apartment complex was hosting. I asked a few friends if they wanted to join, but for one reason or another no one could go, so I went by myself. Note: Going places alone isn’t something that intimidates me, and I enjoy it most of the time, BUT there are certain activities that require other people. This was one of those activities.
Because the event was hosted by my apartment, I assumed there would be other people showing up alone, and we could make a braintrust of the night’s loners to ultimately dominate trivia. Well, I was wrong. Everyone, and I mean all one hundred and some people who showed up, showed up with friends. I asked the organizer of the event if there was anyyyyone else who showed up alone, and he pointed to a table of two girls and suggested I sit with them. Again, I assumed they had come separately, but they’d come together and were waiting on a friend. At this point, I stopped with the assumptions.
Long story short, I ended up having an awesome night! One trivia game, many laughs and a few dirty martinis later, we were leaving the restaurant and before I even got home I had a Facebook friend request from one of them. This kind of thing isn’t at all out of the ordinary for me, but it was certainly unexpected and simply a blast. I’m slowly but surely learning (and retaining the lesson) that I am going to have to confidently put my quirky self out there to avoid sitting in my apartment alone.